What to Do When People Leave Your Church
…reasons, people will leave a church. Yes, it often hurts. (Of course, it is not “your” church; it is God’s church, for those who are going to correct me.) Like…
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…reasons, people will leave a church. Yes, it often hurts. (Of course, it is not “your” church; it is God’s church, for those who are going to correct me.) Like…
…honest and real. The differences in worship style, for example, aren’t superficial. They’re real, and generations hold them deeply. Making any change, even for the sake of others, isn’t easy….
…label one another: “He’s a conservative.” “She’s a nervous Nellie.” “Those people aren’t really Presbyterians [or fill in the blank].” Lay people often label clergy as “controlling” or “naïve.” Clergy…
…who we are, why we’re here, and where we’re going in carrying out the divine mission. Yes, people disagree, even in the church. Indeed, whenever “two or three are gathered”…
…Point’s council voted to move their worship time from 9:00 to 8:45 a.m., and Trinity’s council changed their worship time from 11:00 to 11:15 a.m., allowing the Jacob’s Well service…
…your church is bringing this life-transforming message to the next generation? Copyright 2010 Minnesota Annual Conference of The United Methodist Church. This post is reprinted from https://minnesotacongregationaldevelopment.wordpress.com. Used by permission….
…has to schedule time to be with members; visit the older saints; conduct funerals, weddings, and baptisms; offer counseling; touch the people before and after worship. This is intense relationship…
…team if you want a great team. 5. “At least we’re doing better than (fill in the blank.)” If that’s your standard, get a new standard. Please. 6. “My people…
…of how congregations are adapting to these trends. To follow the findings of the Religious Workforce Project, please visit religiousworkforce.com. Please direct further inquiries to F. Douglas Powe at dpowe@wesleyseminary.edu….
…often exasperation. After all, we cannot manufacture miracles. We can pray, sure. We can hope. But we can’t make miracles happen. If church growth is dependent on the surprising, miracle-producing…
…the not-so-good? This article is adapted from Dottie’s book, ReStart Your Church (Abingdon Press, 2012) and used with the publisher’s permission. It is available from Cokesbury and Amazon . Related…
…sanctuary. Others talk about God’s commandments and make giving a matter of obedience. This is the biblical equivalent of the parent who says, “Because I said so.” And, then, there…
…ancient announcements, the mold growing all over the women’s bathroom. (Yes, that happened at my own church this past very humid summer.) All these signs send the message: We’re depressed….
…but it isn’t Christian community. Real community doesn’t happen in rows of chairs, but in circles. Real community happens when people sit eyeball-to-eyeball, knee-to-knee. When I can see you cry,…
…must be committed to our communities in ways we weren’t before. We begin by listening to and learning from our communities (even if we have lived there a long time!)….
…God (vv. 12, 23). Such a system will save Moses from burnout, but more important, it will let the community go in [shalom]— i.e., in harmony and wholeness, free of…
…it difficult to switch off: “My work never ends.” “Whatever I do, it’s never enough.” “I have to do it all.” As coaches, we’ve seen over and over again that…
…resources through the work of trained and passionate volunteers. They can act as mentors, after-school volunteers, classroom assistants, and the like. They can provide support, encouragement, and learning to students…
…against the cultural grain, members of these groups were told, among other things, to call each other “brother” or “sister,” and to “outdo one another in showing honor” (Rom. 12:10)….
…isn’t about styles — new worship vs. old worship, or generations, young vs. old. Like Jesus, they have a finely-tuned radar for hypocrisy. They don’t want to pray for one…
…that?” Finally, I’d turn to generosity. “You’ve not only been giving your time to that ministry, but you’ve been giving generously to the church as a whole. Could you say…
…of the Church is below. This article is adapted from Lovett Weems’s book Focus: The Real Challenges That Face the United Methodist Church (Abingdon, 2012), available at Cokesbury and Amazon….
…work his own good pleasure” (Phil. 2:12b-13). Whether we think of money as an end or a means, in fact, our money is always a tool, and it’s a tool…
…the expectations are low, and we hear comments such as, “I’m just a volunteer.” A servant, on the other hand, might be thought of as one who performs duties about…
…with “the trouble we are in” (2:17). Key Themes from Nehemiah (2:12) Why Look to Nehemiah for Lessons on Leadership? (9:00) 3. God’s leader helps define the reality of the…
…covers a multitude of sins — even tardiness. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always happen. We live in the real world. It’s a world filled with kids who can’t find their shoes,…
…You must plow and water before you pick. Adapted from God vs. Money: Winning Strategies in the Combat Zone (Abingdon Press, 2018) by J. Clif Christopher. Used by permission. The…
…Churches: Infusing Evangelistic Passion in Your Local Congregation (Zondervan, 2018) by Kevin G. Harney. Used by permission. The book is available at Zondervan, Cokesbury, and Amazon. Related Resources Taking Church…
…some long-time members at the end of the service. A conversation began. A church member welcomed them to their first St. Bart’s worship. “Actually, this isn’t our first visit here,”…
…they will gather. Be willing to really listen. People will trust you and trust the group when they believe that you aren’t trying to fix, advise, correct, or “save” them….
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